LuckyDee, if it helps you in anyway, I learnt most of my DnD 3e/3.5e from CRPGs in the form of Neverwinter Nights.
Most of my D&D knowledge stems from Baldur's Gate :)
The thing about CRPGs is that... well... they're not really RPGs, in general. Take Baldur's Gate for example: there's tons of options to play an evil character, and zero reward. You'll just get less xp, pay more for your items and get attacked by puny guards a lot. So you start playing the numbers instead of the words, because playing the words will just suck ass once you stray off the beaten path.
Maybe I should attempt a more Baldurian approach here, though. With the added freedom PBF offers, I could still strike a balance between that and 'proper' RPG.
LuckyDee it might help a bit to stop considering situation "static" in combat. What I mean by that is that Isirius isn't just standing there waiting for his move RP-wise. Those turns last 6 to 10 (forgot which is in this edition). During that time Isirius is probably trying to attack several times (with actual rolled attacks being the ones where he actually had an opening) and more importantly keeping an eye out on surroundings ;)
As a sidenote that "no/little RP in D&D" is kind of wrong IMHO. You can RP in D&D... or in any other system. Hell, you can RP without any system at all. That's because you don't really need rules to do the Role-playing part of RPG. Playing DnD 4e just means you have more robust rule system to work with when the 'G' in RPG pops up :P
But really, a RP-heavy or at least RP-interesting games can, have been and will be made in 4e. It's just that it needs both players good and willing on that side, and more importantly a GM which is good at doing that sort of campaign. I am not one of those (and as I admitted before I do enjoy the combat aspect of the game more probably) so you get what you get ;)
Heh, well like I said yesterday, being new to D&D and trying to find out stuff about it, all you find is rules, rules, rules and players discussing them - to the point where you start wondering whether any of them even care about the story. I'll take your advice into account as well, thanks.